One Slice Of Her Pure Life...

Blessings, Affirmative, Confirmed dates, Smiles

Shopping, Embellishment, Printed cards, Joy

Flowers, Incense, Ritual, Tradition, Prayers,Hope

Turmeric, Sandalwood, Henna, Purify, Sublime

Red, Henna, Auspicious, Bangles, Vermilion, Faith

Bells, Chants, Holy Fire, Promises, Time, Soul Unison

Me, He, She, We, Eternal, Infinite, Limitless, Endless...

'Let it burn' - on the outside please

I am a very light hearted being by nature, however I also live by Shakespeare's famous adage, 'Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned'. I can be extremely indifferent when I am cheesed off (which still happens to be a rare case thankfully) and I can swear by an insane passion for the things I have always believed in and held in strong regards. This post here comes as a vent to some caged thoughts in the compartment of my mind, which holds an anger- volcanic even if gently rustled upon , hatred- which again if pushed could result in a me being devoid of sanity and to a very large extent, regret- for the things that we always have wanted to change and yet 'DON'T take the required steps.

A gnawing reality of my thought process stays hidden in the everyday errands of my life until I read about it, yet again-'One More Rape Case Reported' on another seemingly normal day for someone like you and me. Not to mention the umpteen cases that are not reported and are still taking place day after day. The erasure of the feminine self thanks to the patriarchy our nation follows has been a long set trend now. In the last one year, the amount of reported cases of rape have been outrageous. What I will be sharing with you now is an afterthought to the many times that we have protested, only a bit more loudly in our shaken voices for a slightly increased duration, because frankly my dear you yourself don't give a damn unless it was your sister, mother, wife or daughter who would be the victim and then you would have that anger in you life-long probably.

It fizzles away for most of us, the entire process gets retraced to square one, until you hear about it AGAIN. If you're thinking the judicial measures can help much in this scenario you may just be skipping over the fact that our patriarchal society very well ensures that we need to be scared as women- Scared of voicing an opinion against men when we have a point to make even if they are wrong, scared of dressing up in a certain way around a certain group of people, scared to step out at a certain time of the day(night) and the list goes on for all those endless gibberish notions.

My prime question here is why do we still have to be scared? Why does one woman pass on to her daughter to be as scared in her dealings with the opposite sex when she is being raised instead of doing something about it like telling her how she needs to defend her sanity? Why is it that a girl and boy of the same age receive the same quality of education and hold the potential to process their thoughts of as much value and yet the girl lags behind when she reaches adolescence and has to keep quiet and bear certain utterly pointless behavior. Why do we give birth to fear in the female counterpart so much that in spite of Goddesses being worshiped in the same land brutal doesn't begin to describe the rate at which a human can fall to scrape a woman's soul out? 

The answer to all the whys are- 'Because WE accept it', we accept it with all out of the societal pressure of not daring to give it back, to keep hearing stories of the horrendous acts and still not do bull about it. We fear, our voices shake and the anger just mounds within till it either explodes on the other side or kills one within.

A few days ago I happened to watch a brilliant short movie directed by Anurag Kashyap on this issue- 'That Day After Everyday' Mr. Kashyap has very well stated the burning problem of some women being eve-teased and how they among their fears shed their inhibitions out of an insane streak of stopping what they cannot tolerate. I honestly feel very inspired and have reinforced an even stronger sense of commitment to never let the demons of fear get the better side of me. To put it as crudely, I would rather create a reaction for every bit of  lechery, eve-teasing or any other form of inhumane and uncomfortable act that I am ever to sense.

As a woman I am sure most of us relate very well to how it feels with such uncomfortable encounters and the fact that our silence to it only leaves a lingering burning sensation in ourselves. Let's face it if we continue to subdue ourselves and do nothing to change the way things are we will forever be stuck in this vicious circle. So all my ladies and the real-time gentlemen who do not further tip the scales of a lopsided patriarchal society, if something goes wrong it is okay to let the fire burn within, just this time make sure its on the outside as well- 'Kyunki tum tab tak ladne ke liye tayaar nahi hoge jab tak tum darogey'...